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Well ladies it's been grand I am thinking ttc is officially on hold. Hubby was out of control with drinking today while I was at work and I called my parents to come help me out. In turn they called the police and yeah this was not the greatest of nights :( not sure whats gonna happen now :( I guess I have more importants things than working at a baby :( I just don't get why he can't put the bottle down. I'm so worried about him and us his kids and just everything.....

Oh Michelle....yes, this is a bigger fish to fry than TTC. I cant imagine how sad this is for you. Please dont be a stranger and keep us posted on whats going on. We are all here to listen and support....no matter if its about TTC or not. I will wait anxiously for your posts to make sure you are okay.

Thanks Melissa I'll be alright I just need to get some help for him. I was so scared I didn't know what else to do :( my mom gave him oe hell of a lecture and some tears from the kids I hope this set into him. I'm still gonna moitor my health and body just maybe put ttc on the back burner and leave what will be be. If it's meant to happen then halelujah otherwise maybe in a few months we can go into it whole heartedly. Hes a wonder person just when he gets those drinks into him he turns into a freaking monster. He never ever hurtsor hits me cause if he did I'd knock him into the next galaxy lol hes a lot smaller than me :) actually...it's just his words and actions that are just awful. Like tonight he broke the glass in our door so when I came home from work he was covered in blood. It was everywhere on the walls in the bathroom on his pants, face just everywhere and he doesn't remember any of it!! So we have a lot to work on but we will and it will all be alright in the end :)

Ahh Jazzy so exciting! the packet of info can consume you! haha I'm sure you will find a wonderful OB! someone you will love!

Michelle! I'm so sorry! that is terrible to hear... I agree that there is more important things RIGHT NOW than TTC especially when it comes to DH (we need them) and we all know how TTC can give you tunnel vision. I hope everything works out and your DH straightens up! we are all here for you!!!

Well our New Years Eve was a flop! haha DH and I went out to dinner at our favorite sushi place!! after that we went to a sports bar for a few beers! then came home to watch the ball drop and cheers to the new year! and kiss 2012 good bye! haha well we got home about 10:30pm and I laid on the couch, told DH to wake me up before midnight if I fall asleep! DH then started watching Avatar..... well ummm he woke me up at 12:28am and said babe! sorry I totally forgot about it being new years eve and we missed! OMG! haha were getting OLD! we laughed about it!

Every year on New Years Day we go to my parents house to eat black eye peas for lunch! all my family got a kick out of us missing it/falling asleep so early! both of my sisters have a few kids and they all partied and stayed up and we only have dogs AHAHAHA

Hope your hump day is going good! DH and I are starting to work out again tonight.... I hate it but I love it!

Kalie how was your progesterone test?? I see your temp spiked up nicely....do you think just late ovulation for whatever reason??? Don't feel bad we did nothing for new years either lol its my least favorite holiday anyway. We stayed awake though ;) ha ha I hope this is the big one for ya :)

Everything will okay with hubby he learned a very hard lesson and hopefully will stick to it. He promised me no drinking this weekend and never ever will he he drink hard liquor again. We are gonna start doing weekend traveling and more family things on the weekends in stead of sitting around where hes tempted to drink. Keep your fingers crossed for me ladies in all things :)

Welcome Brit by the way :)

Thanks michelle :) I am excited to be in a forum group as I feel pretty alone in everything since TTC. But you gals are so amazing from your stories and I am excited to hear and share our journeys together. I hope this new year will all bring us closer to our goals.

Yeah I feel ya...there is no one I can turn too either except here. Everyone I know has had no problem with conceiving and have no clue how I feel since I can't :( I'm so sick of everyone telling me to relax and it will happen because for me it will not just happen. This is something I'm going to work hard at but here almost everyone has problems so it's easier to connect and we all understand each other better :)

Hey! Well my progesterone levels came back today at 1.0 so the nurse said cause I came in on cd25 and not cd21 she can't say weather I O'd or not... But she's dumb! But if you see on my chart I O'd on cd25 so I was ovulating the same day I got blood drawn... And plus 1.0 is more than after my first mc my level was .6 so I'm hopeful! They referred me to a acuncpunture lol ..... So my plan is to in 5 days well 7dpo get blood drawn to see if I did indeed ovulate so late... Or af will show in 2 days.... I just got my order from amazon! 50opks and 20hpts :)

Michelle I'm sure glad ur DH learned a lesson! Your plan sounds like a good idea! I hope for the best!!!

Hi ladies! Well, first day back at work in 2013... Not so much fun! Of course there was something fun and exciting to deal with from while I was gone. Oh well! I was excited though because I started at a yoga studio tonight! I found the studio online and thought that I'd try it this week. Well... I woke up yesterday and they were the featured groupon. $3 for a 90 minute yoga class! I bought 20... Haha! I LOVED it though! So relaxing! So, overall, feeling pretty good. Taking a break from bd'ing tonight and waiting for my +opk. I think it'll be Saturday... Cd19... But I told my hubbs that if I'm wrong and it's tmw morning he'll have a nice wake up call! Haha!

Michelle - sorry to hear what you've been going through these last few days! I hope everything gets better and that your trips away are good to keep his mind busy. We're definitely here to talk to if you need us! I'll be thinking about you and hoping that you are back on the ttc bandwagon soon!

Kalie- loved your story from nye! Haha! That sounds like us... We were so low key this year! I suppose my mind is already out of party mode and in parenting mode!

Welcome, Britt!! I've been following you from seeing some of your questions posted and I'm happy you joined us! I'm also so glad to have girls online to chat with. 2 gals at work are pregnant and my day was hard to see them today. The one got pregnant the first month out and the other got pregnant on accident. Both perfect pregnancies and the one who got pregnant by accident grew about 5 sizes while on vacation. And then they both chatted for about 10 minutes outside my office about their pregnancies and how their babies were facing and how their ultrasounds have been going... I almost had to shut my door. And you know, no one I know understands these feelings... But you ladies do!

Hope you all are having a great week!

Well....it seems I have some news.

My husband communicated to me that he doesnt want to have a second child. In projecting forward with our expenses and income, he thinks it will break us. He doesnt want to live paycheck to paycheck and thinks it would cause stress in our marriage....therefore leading us to divorce. Mind you....we both have great jobs....and it IS possible....he just cant spend a grand a month on tech gadgets. We grew up differently....and now he thinks he and our son are entitled to spend spend spend. For me....I would rather clip coupons and have a second child....and he would rather have money in the bank and spoil our one child.

Seems we are at a crossroads because he has known for 10 years that I wanted 2 children.....and he just thinks with our losses....and the fact that our son is 10...we should give up.

I am not sure yet what I want to do with this. My first thought is separating....because I feel devastated. It seems like we have grown apart with this during TTC and want different things.

I should get my hcg results today from my doctor and will be going on BC to control my bleeding....which has really picked up over the last week....so there wont be any TTC now regardless.

I just feel deflated.