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Merry Christmas ladies!

How is everyone today???

Kalie,
That is so neat that you guys are having a white Christmas in Texas! Sounds like your family has a lot of fun over the holidays!
Maybe the spottig is a good sign? Did you have IB with your previous pregnancies?

Welcome Foxy! I wish you luck!

AFM, it still doesn't feel real. I took a digi just so I could see it in words and it was positive! Looking back on the last week, I had a lot of nausea and thought I was fighting a stomach bug. But now I don't think it was a stomach bug! I also couldn't stand milk or cream all week. I thougt that was related to the "stomach bug" too! All of my pms symptoms were the same as always. Sore BBs, AF cramps, water retention, etc. My pms was the same as every other month! Only new symptoms have been the nausea, the aversion to milk and I have been having some back aches!

I feel really overwhelmed. I am scared that everything I do could be hurting the baby! What is the next step? When do I see the doctor? When do I tell my boss? Lots of questions!

Thank you so much ladies for being there for me!

I feel so lucky, because this wasn't supposed to happen! I will never forget my TTC journey and I decided that I am going to donate $100 to Generations of Hope, a group that pays for IVF for couples who cannot afford it.

Merry Christmas!

Our day has been pretty wonderful thus far....opened up gifts early this morning, had my parents over for a big breakfast and are now preparing to head out to my Grams for another family celebration. Enjoying watching 24 hours of A Christmas Story!

Jazzy....so glad you bought the digi! Those words are priceless! Call the doctor when you return home to get your first prenatal visit scheduled, which is generally at 8 weeks....give or take a week. Unless you are close to your boss, you can hold off on that until after your first prenatal visit. This is to ensure all is going smoothly before you let the cat out of the bag. But that is just me coming from experience....I told people earlier than I should have.

Just eat healthy, take your vitamins and stay away from fish with mercury, processed lunch meats, Advil, Ibuprofen, alcohol, caffiene, and.....hmmm,....I cant think of more at the moment! LOL.

Hope everyone has a great rest of the day!!

Thanks Melissa! I'm glad you are having a good Christmas!
I have been having a half cup of coffee a day. Is that really bad??? Should I eliminate coffee ASAP or wean off over a few days?

Merry Christmas, ladies! So happy to hear that everyone is having a great day! I also am enjoying the 24 hours of Christmas story! We did Christmas with my parents this morning at our house and then went to my in-laws house this afternoon. We are back home now and then we will be heading over for a big Christmas party at my inlaws house :) I laughed the hardest that I've laughed in a long time today... And needed it. My mil is notorious for doing funny things and today was the best. She ordered a present for my husband online. It came and she just wrapped it... Without even looking to make sure it was right. I've never laughed so hard! It was a set of 6 wooden animals sitting of stools that all sit around a table with cups! Omg! After the second animal came out and my mil said "wtf is that?!" I had my head buried in the pillows with tears coming down my face i was laughing so hard. She never ordered it and we have no idea where it came from or who it was really intended for! I was happy for a good laugh though... Last night at church was hard for me. There was a super duper pregnant woman a couple rows up and all I could think was "that should be me"... My first due date was 2/2 and my second was 3/5 and now I'm not even pregnant. That's hard to stomach some days more than others and last night was hard. So I'll just think to myself that my mil planted that gift to get a laugh out of me! Haha!

Welcome to the group, foxy!! Glad you joined us here! I'm so happy to have a supportive group of girls here!

And jazzy... Your doctor might want you in for blood work, so I would call when you get home. That's how I found out my progesterone was low last time... And then it dipped and I was happy I went in and got tested. The biggest thing... So much easier said than done... Is not to stress and just live life like normal. And I would wait on telling people. My theory was that I didn't want to tell anyone who I knew wouldn't be supportive if I lost the baby. Backfired when a "good" friend told me "I'm not surprised you miscarried"... But you never know how people will react. I told my boss at about 7 weeks. He just informed me of the rate of miscarriages and then asked me what my work plans are (which is actually illegal to ask here in ga)... Then he told me he needed to know by month 7 what I planned on doing... How do you know at month 7 what you're doing?! So ultimately he stressed me out, but it was easier after that when I felt bad and he knew I was legitimately sick and not just slacking. It's a hard line the walk... When to tell people and who to tell. I know you'll make the right decision for you though!

Ok... Must go get "prettied" up for our Christmas party! Merry Christmas, ladies!

Lisa,
That was a great story! I laughed out loud!
I know how hard it is seeing pregnant women. I have been avoiding all my favorite family restaurants for months! Just know that your turn will come. IT WILL!

AFM,
We are here at the in laws and everyone has been really nice to me since hearing the news.
Unfortunately, I got some bad news from back home today though. When my great grandma was coming up to the house for xmas dinner, she collapsed in the snow and they had to call an ambulance. She has lung cancer and has been going downhill recently. Such a sad thing to happen on Christmas day... Wish I could be there. Not sure yet how she is doing...

Morning Ladies!

Hope you all had a great holiday!

Lisa...how hysterical about your hubby's gift! I'm sure those wooden animals will find a special place in your home! Heehee! A good laugh is always needed in our lives!!

I'm sorry to hear about what happened at church. I know it can be very hard to see a woman who is just as pregnant as you would be now. There are ladies on the other site (CountdownMyPregnanacy) that I became friends with and we all were within a few days of each other for our EDD. Out of the 6 or so of us, 3 lost their babies (me included)...but the other 3 are going strong with their pregnancies. I still go over to check in with them because they are wonderful ladies and I end up seeing their baby bump photos on their profiles. That hurts....to know what my belly would of looked like at this point. But, it is life....as I tell myself....you win some, you lose some. Just stinks being on the losing end!

OH....I also had a "good friend" of mine tell me that she never "saw me" having the baby....but didn't want to tell me that while I was pregnant. Her "psychic" feelings didn't "connect" with the pregnancy and she said she had a bad feeling ever since I told her I was pregnant. What a great friend telling me this the day I got back to work from having my D&C! Thanks! LOL

Jazzy....hope your GG is okay! Did you hear any word yet?? How are you feeling??

As far as the coffee, I think you can only have up to 200mg per day....something like that. I stop at Starbucks every day before work and get a Chai Latte...which has some caffeine in it...so I worked with the baristas and they lowered the pumps of chai and added more milk. Was I think only 40mg of caffeine in the end....and I don't eat chocolate or anything else with caffeine, so that was my only "vice"....my Chai Latte. A little won't hurt and if it's only a small cup per day...I'd say you might be okay. Talk with the doctor though because I'm in no way a medical professional! LOL

Hope to hear from you ladies soon! I'm gettin' lonely over here! We are (again) supposed to get a really bad snowstorm....12+ inches...tonight. I'll be stuck in the house.....cleaning up from Xmas! So hopefully we can all chat or catch up later!

I got a positive OPK! I posted a pic.

I'm hesitant though....I have a very faint positive hpt...so light but you can see the line on invert. However, I have had negative OPKs for over a week now...and this one being positive hopefully means something...

What do you ladies think?!

I'm also bleeding....but have been for 9 weeks. So, to me, the bleeding doesn't throw me off. Just hoping my body is at least starting to function the right way.

I'll watch my temps....

Hello ladies sorry I haven't been around just been down lately and just losing hope :( Everyday that goes by I care less and less. I am basically out of meds and I have ovulated for 4 cycles and nothing except a longer and longer lp phase. Every time I think oh this will be a great time for a bfp it comes and it goes :( Not planning anything this cycle not that it helps anyway. Just gonna bd when hubby's in the mood. Not using anything and half-heartedly monitoring bbt ust for the do incase he would like to see any charts. This past time I just think my hopes were crushed for the very last time. I am not planning anything this round wouldn't matter I must have bad eggies or something. Everyone says maybe it's hubby but to be honest his swimmers were strong enough to not only crack one eggie but two of another woman. So clearly the issues are all with me :( This weighs so heavy on me everyday. I can't help it :( I just wonder what I've done in my life that a beast of a woman was given two blessings when supposedly on bc and NEVER wanted kids. Now here I am taking care of the children she never wanted and chooses not to take part in their lives. I do love them and do anything for them but I also want to look at a child and see my face too.

Jazzy still so happy for you and you better keep us updated on all the fun stuff that happens :) When will you be able to go in for the heartbeat? I think that would the best one single moment even above learning the sex :)

Kalie you better have yourself a at the end of this cycle as well

Miss Melissa that certainly was a positive opk Hopefully this is the finally the real deal for you and you are back on track!!

Lisa after your losses you certainly deserve a real soon!!!! I'll be keeping an eye out for your good news

Welcome Roxy, this a fine group of ladies and I know we all give support when needed!!

Well hope you all had a wonderful Holiday and Cheers to a good New Year as well!!!

To all of us:

and of course

Michelle....my heart aches just reading your post. You have to know that you ARE a true mother and those kids love you as such. I do understand about wanting to see your face in your child....so that is why my heart feels sad for you. You dont have bad eggs! Hubby could have a lower count....making it harder to conceive....or you might have a simple issue that can (and will) be worked out. Or.....it could just be nothing and it is taking you a wee bit longer to conceive. Some women wait years....some only a few months. It is a frustrating process I know....

Have you tried different positions? I read so much conflicting info on the internet...but some positions allow the deposit to be deeper and closest to the cervix. Or....having an orgasm along with hubby so that the cervix opens to invite the swimmers in. Sorry if that is TMI but....had to mention some fun things to try out....!

Hubby and I have been bickering....so no BDing tonight. I think we have just seen too much of each other and are just annoyed. I am leery about that positive OPK because of my leftover hcg....so I will watch my temps and bleeding. It is okay if we miss the egg this month....my due date would be the first week of the school year and being a teacher, that would be horrible. So....I am not stressed about missing my window of LH surging.

We actually are getting pounded with heavy snow at the moment....ugh! Did I mention that I hate the snow?! Luckily we are off this week for XMas break...so I thankfully do not have to drive in it.

Michelle....are you getting this snow too in PA?

Night Ladies!

Lol I LOVE the sow and wish we got more!!! Yes we will get 6 inches but
We get the stupid freezing rain and sleet ug I so wish we'd have gotten a foot or more!!

Yes we do different positions but my def has a thing for me being on top lol but I am not a firm believer in positions making that much difference. There was many times around O day with him on top me on top and still nothing :( I'm just sick of trying and just think a break will be kind of nice. I'll see what the doc is willing to do and go from there. If he's willing to give a script for clomid then hell yeah I'll give it my all and hopefully he'll want another u/s to check for cysts. Something is wrong with me unless I am just not meant to have biological children. Yes to the kids especially my boy I am their only mother. My mom always told me that even though boys don't show it they are very attached and loyal to their moms. This beast treated him awful. He told me once she wouldn't let him play with her. She just spent time with my daughter. I was told from other family members she treated badly since he was born. I think he was more of a crier and more pukey than her not to mention he is a spitting image of his daddy lol he's daddys mini me. It's so scary and weird sometimes but even though there is not a drop of blood in her my girl looks just like me!! I guess it's because she lives with and I raise her that she takes after me. She even has my damn personality lol In public and with strangers you'd never guess she wasn't mine even down to the same hair and chubby cheeks. It makes everything a lot easier and less questions. I just can't wait to experience everything every little detail of pregnancy down to puking lol I will cherish every second of it!!